He's just not that into you..

I've watched the movie, and read the book.. maybe a bit late on all of this but I'm thankful I did. We grow up with the notion that when a little boy plays pranks on a girl or hits her, it means that he likes her. Does it? Really? I don't know why we accept this theory, it only makes girls believe that if a guy shows you that he doesn't like you it means that he does.. Here it is ladies .. HE DOESN'T.

When he likes you, he will show you no matter how much you push him away. About 4/5years ago I had a crush, he was intelligent, deep and funny and good looking too, we frequented the same group of people for a while and I started overanalysing every little hint. One day I decided that it's now or never so I sent him an email (I know it's tacky but I'm shy!) and I spilled my feelings, didn't ask him to go steady or anything, just a date. He answered back my email saying that he's not sure .. and he'll have to think about it. That answer didn't get me anywhere I just kept hoping that he'll wake up and see me, until one night a friend told me that he left with another girl.

At the end of the day this guy didn't like me, he just wanted me as a friend, and I'm fine with that! Few guys know that most girls appreciate a clear cut answer; do you want to go out with me or not? it's as simple as that dudes! This guy didn't make me feel ugly for the fact that he didn't like me, but he made me feel like an idiot since he thought I don't deserve a real answer.... and I am NO idiot thank you very much. He's more of an idiot because with all of his intelligence he didn't have the guts to be honest.

Some years went by and I knew in my heart that the right guy will come eventually but you always have those sad moments when you're not so sure and you doubt your feelings and your future... Until it actually happened. I was always against dating through the internet, never thought it was right because you don't know the guy and he might turn out to be .. god knows what. But I was going through hi5 profiles ..friends of friends and all that and I saw this guy. He was good looking and seemed nice on screen and for some reason even after closing his profile my finger kept clicking on his picture.. but how much can you tell from a few words? So my friend pushed me to send him a message, at first I was hesitant but she basically wrote the message for me and I said what the hell.. worse thing that could happen he doesn't answer.

I have to say that he was friends with two of my friends so he wasn't a completely new person. Surprisingly after a day I receive an answer back it was just small talk but he seemed friendly enough, from than on we talked for about a week and by the end of the week he asked me to meet. Again I was hesitant because WHO is this guy really .. but with some pushing I went on our first date, second and on our third he was the sweetest man on the planet, he told me that he's not seeing anyone else and he wants to keep seeing just me. That moment was so sweet that I agreed with him right away, today it's 2years and almost 6months later and we're still together.

Ladies, I'm writing all of this just to show from experience that when a guy wants you he KNOWS that he wants you right away and he'll do whatever it takes to have you. Don't believe that you're the exception, most of the time exceptions don't exist, if he's not calling you back after you've called him 15000 times .. he's just not that into you! and that's ok, it just means that you're one guy less away from the RIGHT GUY.