Love, simple word .. 4 letters .. complicated meaning. Ever since I was a little girl I've tried to give that word a definition. When you see two people on tv say that they love eachother what is there special between them? Why can't you be in love with all of your friends? you care for them .. isn't that enough?
Nowadays I still cannot give a clear definition of what love is .. but I can say this.. It's something you feel.. I know it's vague but hear me out. In the first stages of a relationship you are obviously in lust but than when the honeymoon period wears off thats when you can realise if that person is IT or not. This time is when you can see clearly the person for who he really is and you can accept him for who he is with his negatives and positives.
The best thing about love is that we can all have our own version of it. It's the person that may not have your same likes and dislikes but accepts them and is willing to compromise because he knows that it's what you want. It's the person that surprises you on your anniversary with a movie you have been wanting to watch for weeks even though he's not so into watching it.
I think the love of your life is ultimately your partner.
It's the person that doesn't think that you're an idiot when you make a stupid mistake.
It's the person that will fight for your dream when you're too down in the dumps to fight because he knows that thats what you really want.
It's the first person that you want to call when you receive bad/good news.
It's the only person that makes sense when all the people around you seem to be going bonkers.
It's also the person that can make your heart beat fast when he hugs you.
The person that you want standing next to you when all your dreams are coming true.
So now I ask you: When all you ever wished for is coming true, who's the person standing next to you? Can you see him/her?
If you can .. what are you waiting for?
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Friday, August 27, 2010
He's just not that into you..
I've watched the movie, and read the book.. maybe a bit late on all of this but I'm thankful I did. We grow up with the notion that when a little boy plays pranks on a girl or hits her, it means that he likes her. Does it? Really? I don't know why we accept this theory, it only makes girls believe that if a guy shows you that he doesn't like you it means that he does.. Here it is ladies .. HE DOESN'T.
When he likes you, he will show you no matter how much you push him away. About 4/5years ago I had a crush, he was intelligent, deep and funny and good looking too, we frequented the same group of people for a while and I started overanalysing every little hint. One day I decided that it's now or never so I sent him an email (I know it's tacky but I'm shy!) and I spilled my feelings, didn't ask him to go steady or anything, just a date. He answered back my email saying that he's not sure .. and he'll have to think about it. That answer didn't get me anywhere I just kept hoping that he'll wake up and see me, until one night a friend told me that he left with another girl.
At the end of the day this guy didn't like me, he just wanted me as a friend, and I'm fine with that! Few guys know that most girls appreciate a clear cut answer; do you want to go out with me or not? it's as simple as that dudes! This guy didn't make me feel ugly for the fact that he didn't like me, but he made me feel like an idiot since he thought I don't deserve a real answer.... and I am NO idiot thank you very much. He's more of an idiot because with all of his intelligence he didn't have the guts to be honest.
Some years went by and I knew in my heart that the right guy will come eventually but you always have those sad moments when you're not so sure and you doubt your feelings and your future... Until it actually happened. I was always against dating through the internet, never thought it was right because you don't know the guy and he might turn out to be .. god knows what. But I was going through hi5 profiles ..friends of friends and all that and I saw this guy. He was good looking and seemed nice on screen and for some reason even after closing his profile my finger kept clicking on his picture.. but how much can you tell from a few words? So my friend pushed me to send him a message, at first I was hesitant but she basically wrote the message for me and I said what the hell.. worse thing that could happen he doesn't answer.
I have to say that he was friends with two of my friends so he wasn't a completely new person. Surprisingly after a day I receive an answer back it was just small talk but he seemed friendly enough, from than on we talked for about a week and by the end of the week he asked me to meet. Again I was hesitant because WHO is this guy really .. but with some pushing I went on our first date, second and on our third he was the sweetest man on the planet, he told me that he's not seeing anyone else and he wants to keep seeing just me. That moment was so sweet that I agreed with him right away, today it's 2years and almost 6months later and we're still together.
Ladies, I'm writing all of this just to show from experience that when a guy wants you he KNOWS that he wants you right away and he'll do whatever it takes to have you. Don't believe that you're the exception, most of the time exceptions don't exist, if he's not calling you back after you've called him 15000 times .. he's just not that into you! and that's ok, it just means that you're one guy less away from the RIGHT GUY.
When he likes you, he will show you no matter how much you push him away. About 4/5years ago I had a crush, he was intelligent, deep and funny and good looking too, we frequented the same group of people for a while and I started overanalysing every little hint. One day I decided that it's now or never so I sent him an email (I know it's tacky but I'm shy!) and I spilled my feelings, didn't ask him to go steady or anything, just a date. He answered back my email saying that he's not sure .. and he'll have to think about it. That answer didn't get me anywhere I just kept hoping that he'll wake up and see me, until one night a friend told me that he left with another girl.
At the end of the day this guy didn't like me, he just wanted me as a friend, and I'm fine with that! Few guys know that most girls appreciate a clear cut answer; do you want to go out with me or not? it's as simple as that dudes! This guy didn't make me feel ugly for the fact that he didn't like me, but he made me feel like an idiot since he thought I don't deserve a real answer.... and I am NO idiot thank you very much. He's more of an idiot because with all of his intelligence he didn't have the guts to be honest.
Some years went by and I knew in my heart that the right guy will come eventually but you always have those sad moments when you're not so sure and you doubt your feelings and your future... Until it actually happened. I was always against dating through the internet, never thought it was right because you don't know the guy and he might turn out to be .. god knows what. But I was going through hi5 profiles ..friends of friends and all that and I saw this guy. He was good looking and seemed nice on screen and for some reason even after closing his profile my finger kept clicking on his picture.. but how much can you tell from a few words? So my friend pushed me to send him a message, at first I was hesitant but she basically wrote the message for me and I said what the hell.. worse thing that could happen he doesn't answer.
I have to say that he was friends with two of my friends so he wasn't a completely new person. Surprisingly after a day I receive an answer back it was just small talk but he seemed friendly enough, from than on we talked for about a week and by the end of the week he asked me to meet. Again I was hesitant because WHO is this guy really .. but with some pushing I went on our first date, second and on our third he was the sweetest man on the planet, he told me that he's not seeing anyone else and he wants to keep seeing just me. That moment was so sweet that I agreed with him right away, today it's 2years and almost 6months later and we're still together.
Ladies, I'm writing all of this just to show from experience that when a guy wants you he KNOWS that he wants you right away and he'll do whatever it takes to have you. Don't believe that you're the exception, most of the time exceptions don't exist, if he's not calling you back after you've called him 15000 times .. he's just not that into you! and that's ok, it just means that you're one guy less away from the RIGHT GUY.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Should you give a cr*p about what people think?
We live in Malta, the island were most of the people love to discuss and comment about other people. It's the way this little island works. I decided a long time ago not to care about what people think. I mean for most of my life I was careful and tiptoed around everyone else's feelings, but after a while of heartbreaks and "friendships" gone bad you realize that unless you stand up for yourself no one will stand up for you.
If you're reading this you're probably thinking that I'm some kind of depressed little girl, but I can assure you I'm not. I guess in life you just have to develop a hard shell, honestly at this point in my life I have my core group of friends and I don't need any new best buddies because you will never know the real people from the fake. That's what I love about my bffs; we have been there for each other since 6th form and with some even from secondary school, the fact that they stuck by me till now means something. Ultimately I don't look bad at anyone that wants to become my friend, not at all, but I'm not willing to change who I am for the sake of people I don't even know.
Ultimately the people that see something in you, they will be there no matter what, if they don't want to.. I guess that's not my problem. I firmly believe that if you love yourself and who you are, you shouldn't change for no one. The people that truly matter will love all your flaws and trust me I have a lot... but who is perfect? you're the only one that can critique yourself in the best way possible.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
The Berielle Theory
So one night, a couple of years ago, my friend and I were chatting on messenger. We were bored, stressed with exams and laughing hysterically for no apparent reason... I should add that no amount of alcohol was consumed.
[Before explaining our theory I have to say that we have a very strange kind of humour and most of the time no one knows what the heck we're talking about so I will do my best to explain myself well.]
So my friend is very scientific (I'm NOT) but on a crazy night like this I guess the einstein in me came through! We were talking about how we got to know eachother, how faith brought us together and how sometimes we have those moments when we voice eachother's thoughts.
From this conversation we decided to put it in a more scientific manner so we called it The Berielle Theory. The name of this theory comes from the merging of both our names. So this theory is basically just a scientific law called The Weird Law; that A genuinely weird person attracts another genuinely weird person. This means, as I mentioned before that when a person is really strange, he or she will find a person that will understand them and therefore be equally weird. After that the theory continued to evolve with an extension of this law; The Freaky Vibe, this is something that is only experienced by these two people. This is when one weirdo voices what the other one was thinking.
Interesting right? Now let me explain why this occurs mostly between single women.
Well the Berielle science started out between two twenty something year old gals who where too bored and too stressed with exams to go to sleep. We started talking about how single women should stick together, me and my friend have been through everything together during the last 3years of dry guy spell. We watch the same series, we love the same kind of humor and we talk constantly, so we basically developed the same train of thought. This reminds me of two wonderfully hilarious series Friends and Will and Grace (better known as WAG).
They are the ultimate single gal relief! So in the first one you have six 30 something year old people, who basically just hang out and ... say funny stuff? No there's more to it than just that but it's a great example to the Berielle science, they are people who understand each other and are not perfect people with perfect lives, they are imperfect people with VERY imperfect lives. What's the catch? Well it ends with a happy ending! But this series turns even a death in the family funny, dark right? that's most of the fun! Let's face it, when you're single some people choose to become a cynic, it's normal, and even healthy at times it helps you secure yourself from lovey dovey vomity couples on the street, on the bus, in movie theaters, well.. they're everywhere! Now what can you do instead of whining and give out deadly glares at these couples? Well you can make fun of them or else a less "mean" way to go is..again, watching TV Shows!
You're asking right now, are TV shows the cure to everything? Basically Yes... You have any kind for any mood you are in, there's funny, witty,stupid, dramatic,dark,depressing, well you name it and you can find it! Living vicariously through TV shows is a way of relief and safety, it's the road to a rather sane life .. (I said rather!).
Okay ... jokes aside, a TV series show people going through the things that go through everyone's mind! In a TV show you find all kinds of characters, you'll always find someone to associate with, and that will help you through the day. There are many TV shows that can help you through your single life, especially if you're during a dry spell, but what will add up to the help if you have a friend that will share those bad days with a lack of social life. The beauty of a TV show like Friends is not only the show itself and its humor, but its theme song:
So no one told you life was gonna be this way..
Your job's a joke, you're broke, your love life's DOA (Dead Or Alive)
It's like you're always stuck in 2nd gear, when it hasn't been your
Day, Night .. or even your Year!
I'll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour..
I'll be there for you, like I've been there before..
I'll be there for you.. like you're there for me too
No one could ever know me
No one could ever see me
Seems you're the only one who knows
what it's like to be me
Someone to face the day with
Make it through all the rest with
Someone I'll always laugh with
Even at my worst I'm best with you, Yeah.
Isn't this an inspirational song that you and your girlfriend can just jump around to and sing, that will make you feel so much better when you're thinking "it is just NOT my frikkin Day!" (One Tree Hill - Brooke Davis). That's just it, other than theme songs and great stories, some TV shows have wonderful voiceovers and quotes that will make you think and use them as your own (..don't worry they don't mind if you repeat them!). Example a TV show like Dawson's Creek and One Tree Hill, although if you're a 20 something girl, it may be too late for you to watch Dawson's creek because it is more of the 14-16 year olds kind of series, but if you keep in mind the way you used to think back than, I think every girl should watch Dawson's Creek once in her life. It's just so filled with teenage drama, and maybe it doesn't help you to get through your own drama, but it does show you that what you're feeling at that point in your life is normal.
Then we have One Tree Hill, which is especially wonderful for its voice-overs that will make you think, let me give you an example:
The rest of your life is a long time, and whether you know it or not it's being shaped right now. You can choose to blame your circumstances on faith, or bad luck or bad choices..or you can FIGHT BACK. Things aren't always going to be fair in the real world, that's just the way it is. But for the most part, you get what you give. What's worse? Not getting everything you wished for? Or getting it, but finding out it's not enough?The rest of your life is being shaped right now, with the dreams you chase, the choices you make, and the person you decide to be. The rest of your life is a long time, and the rest of your life starts, Now.
One Tree Hill
Isn't it beautiful? Doesn't it make you think? Doesn't it give you SO MUCH more hope and faith in the person you are and the person you can become? and having someone to share these thoughts with is the best thing.
[Before explaining our theory I have to say that we have a very strange kind of humour and most of the time no one knows what the heck we're talking about so I will do my best to explain myself well.]
So my friend is very scientific (I'm NOT) but on a crazy night like this I guess the einstein in me came through! We were talking about how we got to know eachother, how faith brought us together and how sometimes we have those moments when we voice eachother's thoughts.
From this conversation we decided to put it in a more scientific manner so we called it The Berielle Theory. The name of this theory comes from the merging of both our names. So this theory is basically just a scientific law called The Weird Law; that A genuinely weird person attracts another genuinely weird person. This means, as I mentioned before that when a person is really strange, he or she will find a person that will understand them and therefore be equally weird. After that the theory continued to evolve with an extension of this law; The Freaky Vibe, this is something that is only experienced by these two people. This is when one weirdo voices what the other one was thinking.
Interesting right? Now let me explain why this occurs mostly between single women.
Well the Berielle science started out between two twenty something year old gals who where too bored and too stressed with exams to go to sleep. We started talking about how single women should stick together, me and my friend have been through everything together during the last 3years of dry guy spell. We watch the same series, we love the same kind of humor and we talk constantly, so we basically developed the same train of thought. This reminds me of two wonderfully hilarious series Friends and Will and Grace (better known as WAG).
They are the ultimate single gal relief! So in the first one you have six 30 something year old people, who basically just hang out and ... say funny stuff? No there's more to it than just that but it's a great example to the Berielle science, they are people who understand each other and are not perfect people with perfect lives, they are imperfect people with VERY imperfect lives. What's the catch? Well it ends with a happy ending! But this series turns even a death in the family funny, dark right? that's most of the fun! Let's face it, when you're single some people choose to become a cynic, it's normal, and even healthy at times it helps you secure yourself from lovey dovey vomity couples on the street, on the bus, in movie theaters, well.. they're everywhere! Now what can you do instead of whining and give out deadly glares at these couples? Well you can make fun of them or else a less "mean" way to go is..again, watching TV Shows!
You're asking right now, are TV shows the cure to everything? Basically Yes... You have any kind for any mood you are in, there's funny, witty,stupid, dramatic,dark,depressing, well you name it and you can find it! Living vicariously through TV shows is a way of relief and safety, it's the road to a rather sane life .. (I said rather!).
Okay ... jokes aside, a TV series show people going through the things that go through everyone's mind! In a TV show you find all kinds of characters, you'll always find someone to associate with, and that will help you through the day. There are many TV shows that can help you through your single life, especially if you're during a dry spell, but what will add up to the help if you have a friend that will share those bad days with a lack of social life. The beauty of a TV show like Friends is not only the show itself and its humor, but its theme song:
So no one told you life was gonna be this way..
Your job's a joke, you're broke, your love life's DOA (Dead Or Alive)
It's like you're always stuck in 2nd gear, when it hasn't been your
Day, Night .. or even your Year!
I'll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour..
I'll be there for you, like I've been there before..
I'll be there for you.. like you're there for me too
No one could ever know me
No one could ever see me
Seems you're the only one who knows
what it's like to be me
Someone to face the day with
Make it through all the rest with
Someone I'll always laugh with
Even at my worst I'm best with you, Yeah.
Isn't this an inspirational song that you and your girlfriend can just jump around to and sing, that will make you feel so much better when you're thinking "it is just NOT my frikkin Day!" (One Tree Hill - Brooke Davis). That's just it, other than theme songs and great stories, some TV shows have wonderful voiceovers and quotes that will make you think and use them as your own (..don't worry they don't mind if you repeat them!). Example a TV show like Dawson's Creek and One Tree Hill, although if you're a 20 something girl, it may be too late for you to watch Dawson's creek because it is more of the 14-16 year olds kind of series, but if you keep in mind the way you used to think back than, I think every girl should watch Dawson's Creek once in her life. It's just so filled with teenage drama, and maybe it doesn't help you to get through your own drama, but it does show you that what you're feeling at that point in your life is normal.
Then we have One Tree Hill, which is especially wonderful for its voice-overs that will make you think, let me give you an example:
The rest of your life is a long time, and whether you know it or not it's being shaped right now. You can choose to blame your circumstances on faith, or bad luck or bad choices..or you can FIGHT BACK. Things aren't always going to be fair in the real world, that's just the way it is. But for the most part, you get what you give. What's worse? Not getting everything you wished for? Or getting it, but finding out it's not enough?The rest of your life is being shaped right now, with the dreams you chase, the choices you make, and the person you decide to be. The rest of your life is a long time, and the rest of your life starts, Now.
One Tree Hill
Isn't it beautiful? Doesn't it make you think? Doesn't it give you SO MUCH more hope and faith in the person you are and the person you can become? and having someone to share these thoughts with is the best thing.
Friday, August 6, 2010
Legally Blonde: The Musical
I'm sure that a lot of people watched the movies Legally Blonde 1 and 2. I recently came across The Musical taken from this movie, and I have to say it's amazing. It's basically the same story from the movie but the artist that plays Elle in the musical (Laura Bell Bundy) in my opinion gives a much better portrayal of the character than Reese Witherspoon (no offence to her though, amazing actress). I think it's because I can see more in Laura Bell's portrayal that her Elle can be the intelligent and successful lawyer that she becomes in the end. It also has to do with the fact that I have a soft spot for musical actors. I love Hollywood actors but I think that the musical actors are much more well rounded as artists, they're not just actors, they are singers and dancers. For some reason the ones who are most talented we barely ever see them on TV. For some reason they're not as interesting as Paris Hilton getting a DUI or Britney shaving her head. I don't want to bash Britney because I love her, but you get my point, right?
This musical is mostly amazing for its story, seeing a beautiful girl thinking that once she gets married to a rich man, than nothing else matters. But this man breaks her heart and instead of marrying her, he calls her dumb and dumps her for a more "serious" woman. Than Elle goes to Harvard, gets in and at first tries to win his heart, but it turns out that law is more interesting than this man, she works hard, and from a BA in fashion and merchandising she goes on to get a law degree and wins her first big case, and also gets a new man that appreciates her and saw beyond all the blonde he sees on the surface. She realizes that when you're attacked you have to respond and also that the man you want to spend the rest of your life with can't be a man that makes you feel like a dumb blonde, this man needs to be your equal, your partner.
Whats different between me and Ms.Elle woods is that I never believed that getting married was the ultimate goal. Not at all. I always believed that I will get married one day (hope so :P) but I always felt that I had other important things to do before I get to that. I think it's one of my milestones, which I will be happy to get to when it's time :) . Elle learnt this lesson by the end of this movie, she learnt that the popular guy or the hottest guy isn't necessarily the right guy.
No offence for those guys, but girls will ultimately want to be with the nice guy.
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